Creating family

One of the best things in life is when friends become family.

Many of us don't come from "perfect" families- what's a perfect family anyway? Lots of people in my world have experienced the impact of divorce, break ups and blended families. But just because you may not have a "white picket fence" or functional biological family doesn't mean that you can't have a family of healthy and life-giving friends. I have learned over the years the importance of surrounding yourself with people who love and support you. Having people in your life who want you in theirs, the ones who accept you for who you are, the ones who would do anything to see you smile, to support you, and who will love you no matter what.

There's a quote that says, "Show me your friends and I'll show you your future." Think about it- the people who have the biggest influence in your life today are actually shaping what your life will look like tomorrow. Sometimes, we need to sift out the people who don't have our best interest in mind.  We need people who are able to celebrate with us when we are happy, who genuinely feel sad when we are going through hard times, who encourage us with their words... It's these people who will lead us into a bright future, who will help us grow.

I love it when I go over to a friend's place and I feel right at home- welcomed, accepted and cared for. And alternatively, although I'm a private person, I love opening up my home and my life to those I choose to make family. It's a vulnerable place to be, to share your most intimate moments, your heart, to make known the areas where you fall short. But by choosing to be vulnerable, you open up doors to help and be helped, to get to know others and allow others to get to know you, to not judge and hope that you won't be judged. To grow and to help grow.

City life is exciting, crazy and always buzzing, but at times, the hustle and bustle of it all can be exhausting, overwhelming and isolating. It's those times when you need family around... And family doesn't always have to be blood.

One of the best things in life is when friends become family. You are worth being part of a family who will lift you up, support your dreams and who share your values and beliefs. I really believe that those type of people are out there... Start looking out for them as they will help shape your future.